Thursday, March 02, 2017

Thursday Throwback

Here is this week's Thursday Throwback. It will be a post from a earlier date and time of mine. It will be random with no rhyme or reason.

                                                 First Posted: Monday, August 07, 2006 :
If it Feels Right, Then Who Has The Right To Say Different

There was a fork in the road, along the path I walked and I chose the more traveled of the two. A path laid down by father to son many times before. Did I choose this path out of duty or did I choose this path out of fear? Perhaps, the answer will never be known or perhaps having been buried somewhere deep inside many years ago the answer has no importance anymore. But, if I knew then, what I know now, how different things would be, some things would be better and some things, well I can not allow myself to ever imagine not having in my life, but it is all water under the bridge. It is the path I now travel, some dreams not realized but lessons have been learned along the way. Do not make the same mistakes of the father, do not choose the more traveled path because it is what's expected, if the words your brain hears are not the words in your heart, do not listen, choose your own path, make it your own, not someone else's. Don't listen to those that tell you it is wrong, a sin, a damnation. The truth, your truth lies within you, listen to your heart, if it feels right to you, then it is right.

Self commentary: From then to now, nothing as changed. The best advice I could ever give you is to  follow your "own" heart. Right or wrong do what is right for you. Do not live your life at someone else's expectations.


John Gray said...

I think " following your own" path is so much easier tiday than it ever was.
I was chatting to a doctor the other day who is a devout muslim
He must have seem my wedding ring and presumed i was married to a woman, so when we chatted about holidays, he asked me where my " wife" preferred to go
I told him i have a husband not a wife and it clearly threw him but just for a moment

Our conversation carried on as normal

Stephen said...

John Gray; So, so true. Years ago it just wasn't accepted at all, I know it still happens today, but yesteryear it was a thousand fold worst. The tolerance (acceptance) is being changed by the brave men and women living their lives as they were intended. I applaud you for being a strong role model.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

That was a great post, it's so true, I try not to think about the time I wasted hiding but it keeps me up at night sometimes. The truth is however, if I read that twenty years ago, it wouldn't have changed my mind, I would have actually been angry with you. I love that picture, it's interesting, at first I thought it was one of those gay vintage photos but then I realized the guy is using a laptop, must have been an early model lol.

Stephen said...

Sooo-this-is-me; thank-you. It is hard not thinking about the wasted time and all the what if's and if we delve on it too much it will consume us. The best thing is to remember and perhaps learn from it to better ourselves or at least advise someone from the wisdom we have gathered along our journey.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your gets me to reflect on the decisions that I have made in my life. I think the important thing to always remember is that all of us need to chose our own paths, and we shouldn't judge others for the fork in the road that they selected. I do think that times are so different know than they were when I was first discovering who I was. If I were in my 20s now, I think I may have chosen a different road. But who knows? Who can turn back the proverbial clock? When I was in my 20s I did want kids and the white picket fence, but today, two guys living together can have that!

Stephen said...

Michael; in today's world yes, we could have had the white picket fence, the kids, and acceptance pretty much. When I grew up, where I grew up, it was impossible. Thinking back on it and the hindsight of years later I too am really not sure if I would have been strong enough to have walked out the door and left my whole life and world behind. That's what I would have had to do. The proverbial clock as you say does not turn back for no one and I can not capture the water that has flowed down stream. I accept it, I live with it, and maybe in the next life paths will be walked that never was.

Ur-spo said...

well said !

Stephen said...

Ur-spo; thank you and I too, applaud you for being a strong role model for others.